"People get so offended on Tumblr"
No, people get offended everywhere, they just feel safe speaking up about it on Tumblr.
|—||Kate Bornstein, Gender Outlaw|
fuck the gender binary
It’s really hard to admit that you were raped.
Not only because you’re trying to let it go & not to think about it, but also because when you do, you’re called a liar.
When I was touched by a (ex)friend of mine against my will, some people asked me “Why was he sleeping in your bed though?”
It wasn’t that rude to ask. From people’s point of view, they’re just trying to “get the context”, to “understand”.
But what they’re really unconsciously doing is trying to judge if what happened deserves the calling “sexual abuse”. They’re trying to see if you deserve their stamp of approval (and their support).
Most of the times, when a victim of rape or sexual abuse speaks up, people think that standing against her/him might help. They think minimizing the fact will minimize the suffering.
But it doesn’t. When you say “it wasn’t REALLY a rape though, you didn’t tell him to stop”, you’re just calling me a liar.
You’re denying my suffering. You’re refusing me the “rape victim” status. You’re putting me even deeper than my rapist did.
When you do that to a rape victim, you’re just acting like you don’t want her/him to exist.
Someone’s just got fed up with the Manic Pixie Trope.
Here is a difference. Black/Brown/Yellow face is used to humiliate. White face is packaged in a bottle, marketed as a key for success and labelled Fair and Lovely. And it sells.
James Franco goes on tv and admits to trying to get at a underage girl. And gets no shit for it. He is 35 years old. He is more than twice her age. This is what society does to popular handsome celebrities. Makes everyone think it’s okay but it’s NOT. AT ALL.
It is for this same reason that rape accusations involving popular, famous, or powerful people are always met with skepticism. Rape culture starts from a seemingly innocuous place, but it is far from it.
Yeah! This reality hit me a few months ago when a teenage boy at work said to another teenage boy, “ladies first!” in order to insult him. Chivalry is not about respect or kindness.
"Teach your sons not to rape"
Neither our sons, nor our daughters rape
Monsters know what they are doing is wrong.
Except we know that isn’t true. Multiple studies have shown that rape education campaigns DO actually work, because consent is not fully taught, explained, or understood in our culture. A shocking number of men will admit to rape as long as you never use the word “rape” to describe their actions.